How a discussion about personal boundaries becomes a work issue I'll never know.
How setting personal boundaries (when asked to) and saying: "Ok, don't do the following. . .in front of me" (and you don't work together) becomes a work issue I'll never know.
What I do know:
1. Don't be stupid enough to have a personal discussion with a friend about fuzzy boundaries at any workplace no matter how casual the scene - People get confused.
2. Someone saying: "You know me, I'm open, you can talk to me" means I'll be writing this up and I'll be less than accurate (I'll lie).
3. Someone saying: "I need to talk to him about this" means: He and I will have to talk once I make this a work issue.
4. A hug and "Yes, I'm glad you told me" means: Thanks, I'll be writing this up.
5. Don't underestimate a person's defensiveness or depth of confusion no matter how plainly you speak.
How setting personal boundaries (when asked to) and saying: "Ok, don't do the following. . .in front of me" (and you don't work together) becomes a work issue I'll never know.
What I do know:
1. Don't be stupid enough to have a personal discussion with a friend about fuzzy boundaries at any workplace no matter how casual the scene - People get confused.
2. Someone saying: "You know me, I'm open, you can talk to me" means I'll be writing this up and I'll be less than accurate (I'll lie).
3. Someone saying: "I need to talk to him about this" means: He and I will have to talk once I make this a work issue.
4. A hug and "Yes, I'm glad you told me" means: Thanks, I'll be writing this up.
5. Don't underestimate a person's defensiveness or depth of confusion no matter how plainly you speak.